Columbia university main study ki gai jo k boht interesting hy. 5th standard kay bachon ko ikatha kia gaya un sab ko mukhtalif(different) puzzels die solve krny k lia kuch puzzels mushkil(difficult) thy aur kuch asan(easy) thy. bachon na jab puzzels solve kie to un sab bachon ko aik hi baat kahi k ap na boht acha kanm kia yahn bas aik hi farq tha adhy(half) bacho ko kaha gya kay ap na acha iss lia perform kia q k ap boht intellegent hain aur adhy(half) bachon ko kaha gya kay ap na acha iss lia perform kia kay ap boht mehanti(hard working) hain.
Dubara fir sa unhy kuch puzzels die gy solve krny k lia kuch puzzels mushkil(difficult) thy aur kuch asan(easy) thy. bachon na jab puzzels solve kr lie to un sa pucha gaya yahn kuch boht hi interesting sa samny aya un mn sa jin bachon ko kaha gya tha k ap intellegent hyn unho na bura perform kia aur wo bachy bore hogy aur jin bachon ko kaha gya tha kay ap hardworking hain unho na boht acha perform kia aur enjoy b kia wo end tak motivated rahy.
Yahn parents aur teachers ko samjna pary ga k bachon ka locus(center) of control kaha hyn agr ap bachy ko kahin gy k ap intellegent ho extra ordinary skill hyn to wo motivated nahi rahin gy unka locus of control bahr hy yani kay intelligent hyn ya extra ordinary skill hyn to ye unk apny andr nahi hain jab k agr ap unhy kahin gy k ap hardworking hain to unka locus of control un k apny andr hy yani hardwork krna un k apny hath main ha.
Ye baat sirf iss research sa nahi balky boht sari researches sa pata chali ha k agr humain motivated rehna ha to us cheez ka pura control humary apny hath main hona chahiye.
ye control kab hath sa chala jata ha aur kab hath main rehta ha??? jab hum baat krty hyn k ye kam mn falan falan waja sa nahi kr sakta to control humry hath sa chala jata ha lkin jab hum apny andr apni capabilaties ko dekh kar kehty hyn k ye kam main kr skta hon to sara control humry hath mn aa jata ha kyun kay humara dehan fir un reson pa nahi hota kay jin sa hum wo kam nahi kr sakty balky un reasons pa hota ha kay jin sa hum wo kam kr sakty hyn jo krna chahty hyn tab hum ander sa motivated hoty hain.
For Example ap ki field mn aik banda jo top pa betha ho ap kay pas 2 options hyn aik ye kay ap us k bary mn ye kahin kay us k ander kuch extra ordinary ha ya uski qismat ha iss lia wo top pa ha to ap phus gy ab control ap kay hath sa nikl gaya ha ap motivated nahi reh sakty hain lakin agr ap kahin kay wo apny hardwork ki waja sa wahn pa hyn aur agr wo kr sakty hain to main b kr sakta hon unho na b aik din kahin na kahin sa start lia tha na main b kr lon ga bas farq(difference) humry time main hy mn b 10/20 saal baad wahin pa hon ga jahn wo aj hyn ab control ap kay hath main hy.
Hamesha yaad rakhin kay control ap sa bahr nahi hona chahiye ap k andr hona chahiye tab hi motivated reh sakty hyn.
"If you really want to be successful, Think positive and start focusing on what you can do"
